When we compare ourselves to those above us, we activate a mechanism that mostly increases anxiety and stress, driven by the amygdala in the brain. It can also trigger rumination, which lowers self-esteem and damages our sense of identity. Comparing ourselves with those below us is also harmful, as it activates the striatum, which hinders growth and progress. In either case, what comparison does in the mind becomes a major obstacle to creativity and the development of our abilities.
Conscious thinking, when combined with mindfulness practices—sometimes supported by meditation—helps us pause in those moments of comparison, preventing emotional and destructive reactions. By taking a moment of reflection, we can recognize that the thought pattern triggered by comparison is unhelpful, and gently redirect ourselves back onto our own true path.
But comparison does not always arise from within. Sometimes others compare us with themselves or with others, whether to motivate us, to compete, or even to belittle. In such cases, we should immediately redirect the conversation toward our own efforts, values, and personal journey. If such behavior is repeated, the best response may be to ignore it or distance ourselves from the source. Still, since these external comparisons can unconsciously affect us negatively, the healthiest action is to refocus and realign with our own goals and values—even the smallest ones.
On the ‘Train of Happiness in the Forest of the Web,’ I am truly eager to use these mechanisms in dealing with comparison, to open the way for discovering opportunities and unleashing creativity.
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